It has been both a fun filled week here in the middle of nowhere with just a bit of anxiety thrown in just to keep us on our toes dear imaginary reader. I am a bit of a list girl and not being around for those two weeks sure did add to my Jillie do list :). Mother Nature that fickle woman chose to ply us with super heat which is not necessarily condusive to working outside, especially when you have two “helpers” like I did this past week.
It’s tough to even get a bed made let alone work outside. The adventures of Murphy and Ollie are always good for a laugh, and usually at some point a life lesson.
The boy and DC have Murph in obedience classes and we do our best to keep him onside of the rules, at 10 months old he is still a bit of a handful but appears to be calming down somewhat. He and Ollie chase each other, sometimes Murph blows a tire while attempting a tight turn around the corner of the kitchen island. The speed and angle having a great impact (get it dear imaginary reader) on the outcome. Never the less, he always gets up, shakes his head and is ready to catch up or find where Ollie and the next adventure are. A gentle pat, a hug and a kiss and he is ready to go!
Oh I remember the days when it was like that with our kids....100 years ago. A little scary fall? No biggie, smile, clap your hands and away they go! Terrible to compare them to a dog but ya know, a quick rub of the boo boo, a hug and kiss worked just the same way with them. Back then, anything said as long as it was with the correct tone was magic.
And then they grew up. As they are beginning to say, “adulting is hard”. WIsh I could say that it gets easier, but alas, I cannot.
I wish that the words, when I can find them, were the right words and at the precise correct moment. Have you ever had a discussion and you just can’t find the right words - then 20 minutes after the person has left you come up with just the perfect thing to say? Man! If only that “I got this “ sentence showed up on time! Tone and inflection still carry weight but now those kids add their own spin on what the words mean sometimes, AHHHHHH. Frustration sets in and ya just have to keep your head on straight right?
Do not even get me started with trying to impart wisdom by text. That sh*t just does not work.
You want everything to be OK for your kids, family - circle. It won’t ever be perfect, that is just not attainable; to believe that perfection is your quest in my opinion will add unnecessary stress and anxiety to anyone’s life. Relationships are not perfect, it sucks to start a new career at the bottom, and monetary struggles are a way of life when you begin to adult. These are the facts of adulting. Commitment, hard work, sometimes blood, sweat and tears even when you cant see the forest for the trees will help to carry you along the journey. My grandfather was always one to say “you need to have a plan - you just cant float along”. TLOMIL says, “ have a one year, five year plan and write that sucker down”. I agree with both those wise men. Just remember that life happens, those plans are not written in stone. We are going back to those straight lines and bends again dear imaginary reader.
We CAN DO THIS!!! YOU CAN DO THIS!
So - as my kids take steps deeper into adulting, I feel anxiety , they feel anxiety. They call, text and come to visit. I try to look strong and confident; and before they leave I make sure to give them a rub here and there, make sure they have some Ollie time. A big “squeeze hug” and a kiss before they head out the door. Each and every day I send them every positive vibe I have.
And on the days that Murph is hanging with us I make sure they give him a hug, look into his beautiful eyes and take along some of his “OUCH!! Ahhh..I’m ok, lets go” attitude along with them.
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